My ex-husband before we got married. The man in the overcrowded marketplace who grabbed my thigh, then sprinted away laughing before I realized what even happened. The boy in middle school who grabbed my face after September 11th to prove his popularity. My friend’s drunk brother at her holiday party. The foreign exchange student who grabbed my wrist, assuming my “foreignness” granted him access to me. The guy who tugged at my scarf on a date to pull it off because he believed he deserved to see my hair. The upheld and beloved community leaders, engagers, and activists who groom and prey on us during our times of grief and healing.
Contrary to stereotypical assumptions about my faith, this headscarf does not automatically deem women unwelcoming to/of men. It is the men themselves who have established this discomfort. Who have built, with their hands, such toxic environments that women have been taught to walk like minefields. We are unsafe in spaces such as schools, the doctor’s office, markets, fundraisers, social justice events, and as I’ve learned recently, even art communities. This is why I am both humbled and honored to curate and host the STILL HERE Open Mic Night with Waymakers Sexual Assault Victim Services. Because regardless of how many times we are objectified, treated like we don’t matter, or assaulted, we are still here with our stories and with our survival, and we deserve a place to exhale safely.
I invite you to join us Friday, December 4th at 5p.m. PST to share your story or listen to others. The program includes a brief introduction from SAVS Waymakers, followed by an open forum for anyone interested in sharing their stories/expressions. Everyone is welcome. To RSVP and sign up to share on the mic, click here.